Won't anyone discuss intimacy with me?

As we grow up as children, our parents have a dream and aspiration for us to be successful, have a financially stable career hence make a happy family. However you can’t have a family without learning about sex and many parents cringe when the topic of sex is laid on the dinner table. Without sex, I wouldn’t be here typing this on my blog and you wouldn’t be here to read this post. Why do our ancestors feel awkward talking about the first time they had fun in the bedroom? According to movies and adult films, sex seems fun, exhilarating and life-changing to every human including animals and insects. However, after listening to and reading numerous people’s sex stories I get mixed views. The most intriguing and interesting stories involve sex injuries, accidental insemination, lack of orgasms, erectile dysfunction before the climax (if you know what i mean), orgasming too early, experimenting new positions and unwanted visitors. It seems to me that everything is possible during sex.
As human beings, sex is the reason we have birth rates and death rates in our population demographics. Sex is the reason why certain countries have booming population surges like China, India, Sierra Leone, South Africa and Vietnam. Even if we didn’t have the sex education from adult films, we inherently know what to do when we’re feeling aroused and in the moment to satisfy our partner’s biological needs. I wish I have the freedom to use the medical terminology to describe my thoughts because I’m worried about being reported and flagged for inappropriate language just in case little children read this.

The first ever bipedal humans, Homo Sahelanthropus, around 7 million years ago, did not have any technology, nor the internet to watch and learn about sex. Although they had extra fur on their bodies, longer arms, bigger hands, hand-like feet, bigger jaws, sharper teeth, and smaller craniums, knowing the purpose of sexual intercourse might be embedded in their DNA. These human-like apes weren’t aware of the biochemistry and hormonal systems that allows them to feel aroused and ultimately successful in generating offspring. In fact, the terms chemistry and hormone weren’t coined until the early 4th century AD. However it’s possible that they may have learnt sexual positions from other neighbouring organisms like the apes, dinosaurs and mammals but so far no theory and hypothesis is confirmed to be true. I suppose that the way our bodies were designed by our genes allowed us to fit into different sexual manoeuvres like jigsaw puzzle pieces with play dough edges that can somehow fit despite mismatching shapes.

Reconstruction of Homo Sahelanthropus by sculptor Èlisabeth Deyneś

It seems to me that sex is like what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. We inherently view sex as a private interaction between one lucky guy and one lucky girl. It is one of those activities that reinforces individuality and tests the romantic or partnership bond between man and woman which could make or break a relationship, engagement, marriage or friendship with benefits. However in this modern society, public discussions about sex is frowned upon and often negatively judged by the media with a barrage of conspiracy theories about cheating, pedophilia, non-contraceptive climaxes and unhygienic attitude. With this negative and eyebrow raising backlash, the fear of judgement of discussing a topic that is inherent to us humans is evidently making us feel awkward, and ultimately successful in controlling the birth rate in developed countries like Australia, USA and the UK. Modern society revolves around money and politics, therefore everything including delivery of newborns and its necessary resources that ensure the survival of everyone involved including the mother, newborn and the team of doctors are been costed. If only there was a free service or public location where people can masturbate with sex toys like dildos and fleshlights or free sexual sessions with their partners or crushes who feel the need to de-stress from work and study workloads. I know this sounds disgusting and may promote rape and hookup cultures and you will start calling me crazy and gross. Nevertheless you cannot deny your body will feel aroused at least once in your adolescence and it is inevitable for everyone of us to have intercourse at least once in our human lifetimes. This is evolution at work to ensure the survival of our genes and traits throughout future generations. As far as I know, I haven’t seen any reports where humans can have fun sexually in public whenever they feel the urge to do so without the fear of fingerpointing from disgusted individuals and mocking headlines in tomorrow’s newspaper.

Without sex, we wouldn’t call ourselves humans and we wouldn’t have children to nurture in a family. So don’t be afraid raising the topic of sex, I find it humorous and honourable discussing about sex and your potential sex partners, because that’s what makes you and I, homo sapien.